Woman sues boyfriend for not proposing after 8 years
Not putting a ring on it put this man in court.
A story first reported by the Kenyan news site Tuko has gone viral globally for its protagonist’s folk hero-like litigiousness. According to Tuko, Gertrude Ngoma grew tired of waiting for her boyfriend of eight years — and the father of her child — to propose and decided that he’d wasted her time to a criminal degree. So she took him to court.
Ngoma, 26, reportedly sued her partner Herbert Salaliki, 28, not only for fiddling away years of her life without eventually proposing to her, as she alleged he had promised he would, but also for texting with another woman, Tuko reported.
“He has never been serious, that is why I [brought] him to court, because I deserve to know the way forward and our future,” Ngoma told a Zambian court, according to Tuko.
Salaliki defended himself with the excuse that he is not currently in a financial position to afford a wedding and, to add insult to injury, he accused Ngoma — who still lives with her parents — of not giving him sufficient attention in their relationship.
The case’s judge, Evelyn Nalwize, reportedly told Ngoma that the court could not do anything for her as there was no formal marriage, Zambian news site Mwebantu reported.
The Tuko article compares the woman’s story to another recent marriage drama aired on the internet, in which a woman talked on-camera about how she had given up on young men because they take forever to propose and that it’s more advisable to marry an older man who will take good care of his wife.
“I’m tired of these games. A man courts you for one, two, five, others to eight years and when you ask them when you guys are getting married he never lacks a reason,” the woman said in Swahili in the clip, Tuko reported. “They claim they have not settled yet, all those years, when will you ever be ready?”