How To Have A Successful Courtship Part 03

How To Have A Successful Courtship Part 03

Pre-marital sex:
When we talk of Pre-marital sex, it simply means sex before marriage. Many couples live together before marriage to see if they are capable of child bearing by engaging themselves in pre-marital sex. Many end up messing themselves up by engaging in this work of the flesh. The Word of God listed the following as the works of the flesh: Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God (Galatians 5:19-21).

Marriage was designed to bring honour to man and when the bed is defiled, the honour is taken away. If you are in courtship, you are not permitted to engage in sexual relationship or anything that leads to it. If you do that, you are committing fornication and you are defiling your marriage bed. As such, you are taking away the honour in your marriage. The marriage bed is for the married only. To engage in sexual intercourse as a single is a sin against your own conscience and God. Defiling the marriage bed, as a single, is the quickest route to shame in marriage, whether you are marrying the person involved or not.

If you are still single, steer clear of sex till you are legally married. The Bible enjoins singles to present their bodies as a living sacrifice unto the Lord (Romans 12:1). In other words, the presentation of your body unto the Almighty God as a living sacrifice is your reasonable service unto God. It doesn’t matter whether you sleep in the church everyday, as long as your body is not kept pure, that service is not acceptable unto God.

It is also important to know that no matter the volume of money you bring to the church, when you defile the marriage bed, it would not be accepted until you repent. It does not matter if you are a single lady/man or a married man/woman, when you engage in illicit sexual relationship, whatever service you render to God would not be recorded neither would you be rewarded. You may even be in the choir and your voice is as sweet as honey; as long as you engage in sexual relationship outside marriage, when you stand to sing, God’s eyes are not beholding you. If God’s eyes behold you at all, it would be for judgment. It doesn’t matter the post you hold–you can even be the leader of any board in the church, Romans 12:1, is still in the Word of God. Until your body is presented to God as a reasonable service, every other service that you render is unacceptable.


The dictionary meaning of the word “fornication” is any unlawful sexual intercourse between an unmarried man and unmarried woman. In the Bible, the Greek definition of the word “fornication” is to commit illicit sexual intercourse.

Fornication is no longer regarded as sin in our society today; instead, it has become a way of life. Permit me to say that the sin of fornication is even more pronounced in the church of God, today, than anywhere else in the world. As a Christian, your body has been bought with a price; it is not meant for fornication. Rather, your body is meant to glorify God. The Word of God says: Flee fornication… know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s (1 Corinthians 6:18-20).

Young ladies, stop messing up your lives with men because of the money they offer you. Your beauty is not meant for trading. Remember, God, Who gave it to you can call you back anytime. Refuse to sell your body for money because your soul is more precious to God! You may say, “I have to do something to be able to keep up with the cost of things.” I want you to know that your life is much more valuable than money. You may be a fornicator and still go to church, sing, clap and dance. When they say, “Lift up holy hands and let’s worship the Lord” and you lift up your hands too, know that it is not your kind of hands they are talking about. The Word of God says: Who shall ascend into the hill of the Lord? or who shall stand in his holy place? He that hath clean hands, and a pure heart; who hath not lifted up his soul unto vanity, nor sworn deceitfully (Psalm 24:3-4).

Some even claim, “After all, we are going to get married, so why can’t we go on the same bed?” God knows that you are going to get married, but more often than not, you know what happens? After they have seen your nakedness, the interest is no longer there. The love is gone and I tell people all the time: more often than not, it is the lady that carries more of the shame. Now that the man has seen your nakedness, he can say, “I’m sorry sister; in fact, God didn’t give me the leading. I have made a mistake. You can go your way and I would go mine. God will give you your husband or wife.” Why? Because you have sold yourself out to him and there is nothing new anymore.

Marriage is honourable so, the bed must be undefiled. For you to have the honour in your marriage as a single, you must lay a good foundation by keeping yourself pure. Parents, begin to teach your children before they get to the stage of committing the atrocities.

Furthermore, you need to surrender your life to Christ in order to have access to God’s grace to live a pure life. You can do so by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Lord and Saviour. That is what it means to be born again. If you are ready for it, please say this prayer and be born again

“Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”



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